On a recent episode of Bond Appetit, I spoke with Jim Bostock. Jim is one of those miraculous, multifaceted humans that has the power to heal, and is the founder and director of the Bostock Institute. He heals people by rebooting their neuromuscular system through the power of dry needling and works with all kinds of clients, including elite athletes, dancers, entertainers and even helps singers find their voice.
Seeing as Jim is a healer, the conversation naturally skirted around the subject of pain and all the negatives that can bring into your life. Although this was the common thread throughout, it was fascinating to get an insight into how even a healer can experience their own pain points.
Rekindling The Love For Your Work
There can come a point in anyone’s job that things become, well, monotonous. Even Jim admits that he occasionally becomes a bit blasé to the fact that he’s magically helping people. “You do it enough, you’re just doing the work so much that it just becomes monotonous.”
If an exceptional healer like Jim, who is changing people’s lives on a daily basis, can become stuck in a repetitive pattern, is there any way to get out of that mind-set?
“My expectations of my abilities, or anyone in the healing field,” he begins, “would say if they’ve done it long enough, ‘Yeah, I know this – I just know this,’” which can gradually put you into a state of numbness.
In order to break away from that space, he finds it helpful to recount particularly poignant experiences, ones that truly validates his work as a healer.
“I had one, two days ago, clearly will not forget that one because the emotions and energy that came out of that was so powerful, we were both in tears.” In putting a pin in that particular experience he managed to reawaken to the fact that he’s actually doing incredibly important work.
“Yeah, I’ll remember that, tell stories about that and that drives me to wake up and do it again.”
Keep Track Of The Positives
The power of a negative thought is immense, and when our brain experiences it, it can be hard to turn back into the positive.
When I spoke with Jim about this, I told him about the thought whiteboard, a place where you record all the day-to-day, positive achievements or experiences. No matter how big or small, it goes on the list.
When you have it mapped out the amount of achievements you have in the bag becomes obvious. So, should the time come when your brain is kicking into negative overdrive, crack out your list, recount a positive achievement and meditate on it for a while – Trust me, it helps.
Building Human Connections
Jim fixes the pains that just won’t go away. If you can imagine being in pain almost 24/7 it can emotionally as well as physically, take its toll.
Jim admits that when he sees a client suffering so deeply, where they are feeling every part of their pain, he can’t help but feel emotionally connected. “The pain, if you have it long enough it will depress you no matter how good a person is,” he explains.
When he is able to reduce or take away the pain completely, he is sharing in a moment of emotional unburdening. It’s a powerful experience, and more times than he cares to recount, he has been left crying with them in their relief.
“I love helping people not feel fearful, inadequate, hopeless – I think that’s what drives me.”
Listen to the entire podcast episode with Jim Bostock here.
Author: Ronsley Vaz
Ronsley is the founder & chief day dreamer at AMPLIFY. He is an author, speaker & serial entrepreneur.
He has a Masters’ degree in Software Engineering and an MBA in Psychology and Leadership. He is known as the creator of We Are Podcast – the first Podcasting Conference in the Southern Hemisphere, and the host of The Bond Appetit Podcast and Should I Start a Podcast. He has an audience of over 3 million in 133 countries.